Added: Oct 13, 2010
From: TEDxTalks
Duration: 15:58
TEDxKC talk synopsis: In our anxious world, we often protect ourselves by closing off parts of our lives that leave us feeling most vulnerable. Yet invulnerability has a price. When we knowingly or unknowingly numb ourselves to what we sense threatens us, we sacrifice an essential tool for navigating uncertain times -- joy. This talk will explore how and why fear and collective scarcity has profoundly dangerous consequences on how we live, love, parent, work and engage in relationships -- and how simple acts can restore our sense of purpose and meaning. Speaker: Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work where she has spent the past 10 years studying courage, shame and authenticity. She is the Behavioral Health Scholar-in-Residence at the Council on Alcohol and Drugs and has written several books on her research. www.brenebrown.com/welcome http://www.TEDxKC.org/ About TEDx, x = independently organized event In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized. (Subject to certain rules and regulations.)
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Rating: 4.9571276' max='5' min='1' numRaters='933' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#overall ( ratings) Views: 164677 Comments: 57
lillibw Says:
May 3, 2011 - Brené - you are my hero. Wow. THANK YOU.
LonelyaDalilaaa460 Says:
May 9, 2011 - heh_I_fÈEl_sÓ_lOnÉlý_tÕÐäy
KElizabethLaw Says:
May 19, 2011 - Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable - In my opinion, this is the hardest thing of all to do, yet the most rewarding.
yorindavortex Says:
Jun 22, 2011 - Thank you for the very interesting talk. I can relate to that when we repress shame etc we also repress joy. I read somewhere that our safety lies in our vulnerability. Much appreciated.
R0BMonroe Says:
Jul 2, 2011 - Your joy is a full well, dug by your own sorrow. If you do not allow one, you do not have the other. Thanks, good video The Eroticist
VikingaJM Says:
Jul 30, 2011 - The answer ir right there and quite clear... your comment sounds to me like another example of how we numb vulnerability... Thanks for that! I'm starting being brave enough to live through my vulnerability... and you'd be amazed!!! I can't describe it, you have to do your own process. it takes lots of will and courage at first, but once you start you realize the barriers we build to avoid what we fear are waaaay scarier than what we fear!
VikingaJM Says:
Jul 30, 2011 - Responder a este vídeo... Humans we are, mistakes we're gonna make, always, but being wise enough to accept our flaws, embrace our vulnerability and learn from our mistakes really helps... good luck! Love
tdreamgmail Says:
Jul 31, 2011 - aww you sound like a sweetie pie, my sis linked me to her other video which was much better in explaining vulnerability to me. I am now a fan
Boldstrummer Says:
Aug 9, 2011 - One has to take responsibility for our vulnerability or lack of . You already projected a not good out come. So it seem you already know the answer. Seems there is anger by judging her as being on a pedestal. She has DONE THE WORK. She confronted her conditioning. It was a fight be she won in the end. YOU can do the same thing. Nothing stopping you except you. Practice gratitude. To honor what is ordinary in our lives. The people we love our community. Be grateful.
happinesson Says:
Dec 5, 2011 - i am totally affected by this..nice talk
ghostfaceki11ah Says:
Dec 16, 2011 - can someone better explain the faith - vulnerability= extremism equation. And " faith is the vulnerability that flows between the shores of certainty" quote!!!!!
ilovelux Says:
Dec 18, 2011 - well said.
cmccormick3193 Says:
Dec 20, 2011 - @ghostfaceki11ah: my interpretation of your transcription: an individual has a certain amount of Faith (somewhere between a lot and very little) ... that individual can experience a particular amount of Vulnerability (somewhere between a lot and very little) ... the more Vulnerable that individual is, the less they will bounce around the roller-coaster of Extremism as they live their lives. aka: Life flows between Certainty and Uncertainty ... Faith, Vulnerability are vessels to best ride it.
MsEat25 Says:
Jan 31, 2012 - Is there a transcript of this speech anywhere on the web?
gkdrummerboy Says:
Feb 18, 2012 - GSP should watch this.
thivai289 Says:
Mar 3, 2012 - I'm greatful that I found out about your research, can watch these videos and find that many of those things I have already realized in my life. Now I'm even more reassured to keep up with them :)
poetessbritt Says:
Mar 17, 2012 - why, that IS the solution though, and that's what makes this an aha moment! you DON'T stew. you seek to LOVE yourself and LOVE others and LOVE your God in an enthusiastic, whole-hearted, and COURAGEOUS fashion! thennnnn there wont be nearly as much to numb, i think!
JoelSpeier Says:
Mar 17, 2012 - If you try to numb out negative feelings by default you numb out positive feelings like joy, be brave be vulnerable, be thankful
cafebaas Says:
Apr 5, 2012 - Reading the book!
greenmonkeypoo321 Says:
Apr 25, 2012 - Read her book, she gives advice on what to do. + You underestimate the power of insight... sometimes it helps just to know what you're doing wrong.
bluestreek004 Says:
May 10, 2012 - I started work today and everyone looks so attractive and charming. I feel like dirt compared to them. Like I'm not even good enough to be in their presence. Yet I can't even express this to anyone except strangers on YouTube. Although it does feel kinda liberating making this long paragraph and being vulnerable to criticism.
sksigil Says:
May 18, 2012 - The salesman's first port of call may always be pain and vulnerability - but does he talk about it to others? Does he use his situation to connect with others? Or does he hide it and pretend he is always successful?
kregerjd Says:
May 19, 2012 - Why did we automatically laugh at the sotry ending with the crashed car, and enjoy it like it was entertainment? I felt sick after watching and laughing then realizing what I just laughed at was incredibly wrong in so many ways.
. . . . . . . because these video appear directly from youtube.com which we cannot control it.)
JivinJane Says:
Apr 12, 2011 - @tdreamgmail " Yet another aha moment yet what can you do to get away from the numbing? ' We see it and we acknowledge it and we sit with it and let it soften gradually and maybe it comes back stronger, and so we do the same technique maybe for years, but not to acknowledge it is to stay rigid. We sit with it and watch it until finally it is melted away. And then along comes another challenge! lol